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I underwent a similar realization when suddenly there were a few thousand people reading my story -- developing an appreciation for people who are actually famous and feeling like I've experienced only a tiny part of what they might be going through.

My experience is complicated and nuanced (obviously my word of choice). To understand it in its entirety, you have to be open to considering my intentions, my history, my past, my education... and you have to be open to considering those things in every single person who facilitated my transition. Instead, people tend to run my story through the context of their own lives. It's easy for those people to, for example, accuse my therapist of being irredeemably bad (when I think she is generally a lovely and empathic person who did what she thought was right).

Having so many eyes on you means your words and actions get run through so many different filters. And those people forget that they don't have the whole story and likely never will (as celebrity-gossip-focused media frequently ignores). I don't think I could endure fame. It seems so dehumanizing.

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